Remember those permission slips you got your parents to sign to go on school trips back in the day? Who knew we’d need them more than ever now in our 40s, 50s, and 60s!
We’re in the season of giving. And we want to give you one thing women in EvolveMe are grateful for. Straight from our community...Ready? This can change everything.
The permission to ask for help.
If you’re like us, you often feel you need to do ALL the things. On your own. That goes for taking care of your kids, parents, partner, and career. And those pets - they need love too!!
We work with strong, independent women who are struggling. Why?
Because we were raised to be independent.
Because we think leaning on others is a sign of weakness.
Because then others will know we’re not really all that “together” (gasp!).
Asking for help is not a weakness. It’s a sign of self-awareness and resourcefulness.
And asking for help can come in many different forms -- from letting yourself off the hook from cooking EVERYTHING for a holiday dinner to delegating low-priority work projects to someone on your team. Remember - just because you can do it, it doesn’t mean you need to - or should!
Giving yourself permission to get the help you need allows you to step out of perfectionism. And you don’t become less than if you had done everything by yourself -- in fact, you can give more of your attention to what really matters.
Now more than ever, in this time of flux, asking for help is brave. Help from the right people who are invested in your success will enable you to thrive. And we’ve heard from you that you need a boost from time to time.
The good news is to remember that most people love sharing advice and talking about their own experiences. So when you ask for help, you’re giving others the opportunity to feel good about themselves and participate in a solution!
Here are 3 ways to ask for help:
Be specific: When you’re specific about the type of support you’re looking for, it’s easier for people to help you. Spend time getting clear on what you need from the other person. Is it a contact? An opinion? A recommendation? Connect the dots so they can easily understand what you’re asking of them.
Check in with your mentors: The more you keep up relationships with the women (and men) who lifted you up along the way in your career journey, the less it will feel like you’re only going to them when you need advice. The holidays are a great time to check in with friends, colleagues, and mentors who have shaped who you are today.
Give and get: When you ask for help, you have the opportunity to also be generous and give of yourself too. Understand what the other person needs and see if you can reciprocate. Think about it like this -- for every ask you make of the other person, give them 2 things!
And now here’s something just to you. Give this gift to yourself! We’ll make it easier.
If you...
are feeling stuck,
aren’t sure if a career transition is right for you now,
want to relaunch and not sure how to start,
want to level up in your career…
…then try this free tool!
We’re giving you permission to invest time in yourself with EvolveMe's Career Reinvention Analyzer.
You’ll gain the clarity you need to move forward :)
Ready to get started? There’s no time like the present.
To your success!
